"Each of the strategies in this book is geared toward helping you become more relaxed, peaceful and loving. One of the most important pieces of this puzzle, however, is to remember that your goal is to stay relaxed, to not get worked up or concerned about how you are doing. Practice the strategies, keep them in mind, yet don't worry about being perfect. Cut yourself some slack! There will be many times when you lose it, when you revert to being uptight, frustrated, stressed and reactive -- get used to it. When you do, it's okay. Life is process -- just one thing after another. When you lose it, just start again".